Comments on: “I sort of have a foreign oil-esque dependence on companionship that I need to shed.” – Kevin Pereira

By: Social Studies In New York « Natali Del Conte

Social Studies In New York « Natali Del Conte — Mon, 15 Sep 2008 21:54:02 +0000

[...] Studies In New York Posted by natalidelconte under Uncategorized In my continued effort to be social, I would like to invite any and all in the New York area to a few [...]

By: If You’re Going To DEMO, Say Hi To Me! « Natali Del Conte

If You’re Going To DEMO, Say Hi To Me! « Natali Del Conte — Fri, 05 Sep 2008 21:12:28 +0000

[...] if you’re going to DEMO in person, be sure to say hello to me. I’m trying to be social, remember? [...]

By: Simon Brocklehurst

Simon Brocklehurst — Fri, 05 Sep 2008 20:19:53 +0000

Natali, how can you talk like this?! Prison Break is back NOW (including, your fav character, the super-hot Bellick). Then Heroes is back next week (I can tell you’re a Syler fan), and Desperate Housewives shortly after that – I bet Susan annoys you, but Gabby is cool, you have to admit! Then, there’s season two of Eli Stone to look foward to (ahhh, San Francisco!); and before you know it, 24 Season 7 will finally hit our screens and Chloe will be downloading co-ordinates to Jack’s PDA like there’s no tomorrow. Who knows, he might even have upgraded to an iPhone.

And then… when was the last time you re-read the Harry Potter books? There are so many clues and nuances that can be spotted only from repeated re-readings. What *actually* happened between Harry and Herminone when they were camping alone together without Ron? Start at Chapter 1, Book 1 *tonight*… The Boy Who Live…

And I won’t even *mention* Top Chef…

My point is – with all this going on, there isn’t enough time for work, let alone spending face-to-face time with friends!

But seriously… (actually, I was partly serious above!)… I’d be willing to bet all you need is to get yourself out of your appartment one or two evenings a week. For a drink. For dinner. For some culture. Preferably with people / a person you like.

BTW, on a culture note, do NOT miss Richard Griffiths and Dan Radcliffe in Equus on Broadway later this year. I saw it in London – it’s genuinely an amazing production. Richard Griffiths is just spell-binding; and as a true Harry Potter fan, you should get front-row seats in the stalls if you can

By: hairyasian

hairyasian — Fri, 05 Sep 2008 06:19:44 +0000

i love that line. thx for sharing it and forward my raves to kevin if you run into him…

By: Robert

Robert — Wed, 03 Sep 2008 01:27:07 +0000

I’m sure natali someday,you will find some one spacial in your life. Robert

By: Amanda

Amanda — Wed, 03 Sep 2008 00:14:27 +0000

Hi Natali,

Happy belated birthday! I just wanted to let you know that I stumbled across your blog a couple months ago, and since then, I’ve become a huge fan. You have a way of blogging that is so captivating, no matter what the topic is, although I’m sure your career has been an indication of your talent!

As someone who also enjoys writing, you are a great role model, and I thought you’d like to know you have a new fan, because that’s always nice to hear. In particular, I loved your Sex & the City post as well as the one with the quote, “If you’re getting kicked in the butt, at least it means you’re in the front,” which motivated me during a particularly late night at the office.

Best,
Amanda

By: Frank L

Frank L — Tue, 02 Sep 2008 20:21:53 +0000

I’ve been talking about this very thing with my friends who are just turning 30 (or about to turn 30, or who are turning 24 and now worried about turning 30)-and I think its the last shackles of an old world in all of us that need some shaking off. It seems to hit women especially hard-and given some of the biological and cultural pressures put on women that makes sense.

I, for one, figure you’re in the better camp-it seems to me that a lot of people who were/are dependent on others end up rushing into relationships and then regret/miss a whole independent part of their life that they have to just start figuring it out at our age. That, IMHO, seems a lot harder to do then to find a bf/gf/someone to love.

If you’re doing the stuff you love then people you love will come into your life…right?

Then again what do I know, I’m just a guy on the Internets.

Take care (Btw your party looked like fun!)

By: Brian Allan Hobbs

Brian Allan Hobbs — Tue, 02 Sep 2008 20:12:26 +0000

Ok, so stop being over-independent and call me for a drink! We never did get to reconnect. We both just dunked our heads into work. Talk to you soon, k?

~Brian

By: kelvlam

kelvlam — Tue, 02 Sep 2008 19:37:06 +0000

Natali,

While catching up with my 3 days worth of tweets also (yeah away for the long weekend and kept myself off the net!), I’m happy to see you back on Loaded, able to read your thoughts on this blog, and after I get home I can share your great time at SF on flickr later.

In my 30s now, I’m on the same boat as you and shared more or less the same thoughts in re: companionship. “Over-depedence on companionship: bad. Under-dependence on companionship: equally bad.” sums it up well…

Do what makes you happy, is what everyone been telling me ever since my ex left me. It’s always easier said than done… but I hope you will be better at it than me

Like other commenter said – baby step, one at a time!!!

Best wishes~
Kelvin

By: slayerboy

slayerboy — Tue, 02 Sep 2008 04:01:25 +0000

Natali,

First of all, happy be-lated 30th birthday!

I just turned 30 in December. It sounds like you are taking your 30th a LOT better than I did.

I know exactly what you mean about companionship and all that. While I am definitely not as busy as you, I still pretty much don’t “miss” people like most normal people would. I don’t miss talking to friends. Maybe my “friends” aren’t my true friends. Maybe I’m meant to be single my whole life. Who knows.

It’s not really about companionship. I think it has more to do with happiness. If YOU are happy, nothing else will matter and things will seem to fall in place. Just keep doing what you’re doing and things will work out.

I lived on my own for 2 1/2 years and moved back in with the parents shortly after I turned 30 (personal and financial issues). I thought this would be the biggest mistake of my life, but it’s turned out to be the best decision I could have ever made, even if it wasn’t really my decision in the beginning. The dog helped me more than being with people does, but it’s nice to know that there’s someone there just in case.

Letting people in is good, but like you said, you have to find a balance. I was all about friends and ignored my family. Now I’m all about family and ignoring friends. As much as I don’t “miss” people, I think we really do need to find balance as human beings. It sucks feeling like I’ve been neglecting people, but we all go through this. It will work itself out if we keep going on the right track.

Baby steps. One day at a time. One goal at a time.